The subject of men cheating has fueled many heated morality debates since before Christ and continues to dominate them to this day. There seems to be a large groups of women that believe that men can’t help themselves. Some believe all it takes is a big butt or huge breasts and off he goes. Nothing is further from the truth! The truth is women cause men to cheat. The butt and the breasts are just bait. Don’t believe me? You need to hear it from a man and I will be that man.
First off, If you are in a relationship and not married, You are in a tight spot. You have his mind, body, and soul but none of the above means anything unless you have his commitment. That commitment can only be symbolized by a wedding ring. I don’t mean to step on the toes of those that are living together in bliss. Some would say that you have the advantage. If your man cheats, Just throw his things out and start over. One thing you need to know. Until he puts a ring on his finger, He’s pretty much non-committal and he is still keeping his options open. The longer you stay un-married, The more time he is devoting to making sure you are or are not the one. You have to accept the fact that you may not be the one and just hope he is man enough to tell you that before you find out the hard way.
Wives create cheating husbands before they even married. I know this may sound strange but it is the truth. Lets say you are dating a guy you like and you can see yourself with him if he changes a few things. Maybe he is all day sexy with all night habits and you believe that if you become his wife, You can turn him around. Wrong! He has to change before you marry him. He maybe happy the way he is and he will cheat to stay that way. You can’t blame him no more than you can blame a circus animal for attacking its handlers. You cannot turn a lion into a house cat no matter how much you train it. It’s still a lion. You have to treat your man the same way. You have to accept and love him as he is. Nothing else will do. A lot of women make this mistake. Wives find themselves at war with parts of their husbands that they find un-appealing. Since you didn’t deal with it before you got married, You now bring a poisonous element into the marriage creating a toxic household. He will cheat just to get some peace in his life. Another woman will be all to happy to provide that for him.
Women help men cheat constantly. The other woman or the mistress these days is no longer playing the role of witless play thing. She is now a willing accomplice. Helping him cover his tracks at every encounter. Why? Cause she knows what he is going through. He carries the scent of an unhappy household with him everywhere he goes and it attracts all types of women sympathetic to his cause.
He was a good man. Works everyday, Brings his money home but he is flawed like all humans. When these faults present themselves, you verbally assault him with no let up. Not just one time, Often. You may believe a man should be strong enough to take it but why should he? You wouldn’t. Verbal abuse drives men to cheat more than anything. If you see a guy getting verbally beat down in public by his wife, I guarantee he’ll be cheating in no time. The male ego is fragile and you swing at with your verbal baseball bat with reckless abandon. What happened to basic communication? What happened to the respect? Wives who constantly degrade their husbands during disagreements can make the most unlikely men cheat. You may have kids and getting a divorce will cost him big but he’ll risk it. If his wife is truly awful, everyone in his life will help him cheat. Even her close friends may offer themselves to him because he is a good man truly unappreciated.
The same things that will make a woman leave her husband are the same things that will make him cheat. Not porn or topless bars. Don’t worry about Tyler Perry’s 80/20 rule. If you make his 80 percent unbearable, he will run towards 20. Sex very rarely the cause of him cheating. Sex is just the way he choses to deal with his problem. You can call his penis small if you want to. Just wait a while. He will find another woman who likes small packages. You can call him broke all you want to but the are women out there who are willing to share a grilled cheese sandwich with him. If you believe that all men cheat, then you should let you man cheat because you have already given up. You might as well start swinging or mate swapping. That way, You won’t have to worry about your prejudice interfering in your marriage. Or you can be like the wife of NBA star Andrei Kirilenko. She allows him to have sex with another woman one night a year.
Now if you believe there are good men out there and you married one, Treat him like you would want to be treated. Love and honor him. Above all else, respect him and the threat of him cheating will be non-existent. Unless he has other more severe problems which you chose to ignore. Holla if you hear me!